This post is one that I have wanted to write for a while, but have hesitated to do because I don't want to imply that I think I am an expert in the parenting/discipline arena in ANY WAY. One of my favorite parenting quotes is by John Wilmot.Before I got married I had six theories about raising children; now, I have six children and no theories.
The longer I am a parent (and the more mistakes I make) the more I comprehend my lack of expertise and brilliance in the area of parenting. I have said many times to y'all, and I will say it again, most days I feel like I am doing one big science experiment and I pray and hope my hypothesis of a kiddo who loves God, loves people and knows how to function in the real world pans out. By. the. grace. of. God. and despite my shortcomings.
My experiment has involved a great deal of research - conversations with mommies, reading blogs, web sites, prayer, books - and a fair heaping of intuition. After all, we know our kids best.
Other than my intuition and instincts,
1. My number one research is looking to my Father up above through prayer, the Bible and encouragement from others who seek Him as well. I also pray that He will guide my intuition in moments when I am clueless and show me how to respond. Sometimes I listen better than other times;).
2. My second resource is experience. Experience of other moms and children and people who interact with children. I am always looking for tips and tricks and sometimes just trying to find someone who can relate with my struggles/fears or my overall approach. I also try to learn from my own experience and not repeat the same mistakes over and over (maybe just two times or so:).
3. Finally, I look to the professionals. We love our pediatrician. We also read books, such as Babywise/Growing Kids God's Way, The Baby Whisperer, The No Cry Sleep Solution, Raising Boys and Creative Correction, Love and Logic...just to name a few. I've never been a big 100% "by this book" or "that book" type of mom. I'm kind of a tools in the toolbox type of momma.
I had a conversation with the moms at our playgroup today and we all shared ideas for how we are dealing with our lively toddlers. It was so encouraging.
I decided to share a couple of the things that I am learning throughout the process that I like to call
Hopefully, I can share some mistakes, tips, ideas and resources that will encourage you the way the women in my life encourage me. After all, us mommies have to stick together!
Leedle cuddling with Grace, Harper & Walker Man. This picture has no relevance to the post, but it's so cute that I had to find an excuse to use it:).